Sunday, June 19, 2005

Does That....?

I dislike people criticising the people and things that I like when I myself criticise the things and people that other people likes...
Does that make me a sensitive person?

I dislike people I consider average beating me in something...
Does that make me a kiasu?

I dislike lending my helping hand to some people ...
Does that make me a selfish person?

I dislike people who thinks highly and boasts about themselves when I myself always do that...
Does that make me a conceited person?

I dislike people who are rude when I myself is sometimes rude too..
Does that make me a ruder person?

I always judge a book by it's cover and have prejudice against some people that cannot be changed...
Does that make me a sensitive person?

I always get annoyed with people for no reason...
Does that make me a bad person?

Now that I have found all my weaknesses...
Does that mean it's time for me to change or risk losing all those who care for me?

4 comments:

Anonymous said...

You defend what you like and express your dislikes. that means you stand your ground on what you believe. A sensitive person? certainly. But that would mean that most of us are sensitive. Its okay to be sensitive actually, what matters is whether we can tackle the issues objectively. A criticism is most of the time, just a point of view. When our point of view is denied, its normal that we feel unhappy because people oppose your view. Your 'truth' is denied. Take both your view, and 'whoever's view and reshuffle the facts. Maybe your view will remain the same, and maybe it won't. Anyway don't worry about it, in a nutshell, its normal.

Unhappy over a defeat by an underling? Normal. I don't think anybody would be happy about it anyway. That also means that everybody is kiasu. Sometimes things in life just refuse to agree with each other, like losing to someone 'average'. Maybe you have misjudged, or maybe you just didn't perform as well as you were able to during that 'fateful' competition. What is there to say? It's life... and unfortunately, we're stuck in it. Being kiasu is okay as long as we don't lose control, our own personality.

Not willing to lend a hand to some other people? I'd assume that its because he/she does not seem to be the one who should be receiving it. Think whether that person needed the help or not. If you notice, there are fit, healthy people walking our streets, begging for money, sleeping at sidewalks. They are well able to get a job, earn a living, but they refuse to make the effort to do so. Till date, I have never bothered to give sympathy to this group, financial wise that is. Does that make me selfish? I honestly don't know. Bottomline is, we should only be compelled to help those in need. But if you have refused to help although he or she needed it, then perhaps a change should be considered. But again help should also be handed based on what you can give. You'd have your own limits to what you are able to give.

Showofs are, very often, disliked than liked. Problem is, we want attention too. So what we do? We attract attention. A.k.a. showoff. I guess it hard to say that its okay to showoff, although at certain circumstances, when we need to be acknowledge, we HAVE to show off. But showing off yourself, doesn't necessarily mean that you're all but conceited. Yes it is rude, and unpleasant to others. So it really sums up 2 of your items, showing off, and rudeness. We are not perfect, and we do lose control of what we do at times. Nothing we can do about that. But what we CAN do is to be conscious of what we say and do, and be aware of the reactions of others on our behaviour. Yu find that it is unpleasant to them, perhaps you should stop. The incident, should be enough to hold you back from repeating something like it next time, assuming that you noticed it. As you decribed, it doesn't mean you're a ruder person, it simply means that you can be rude too. Everybody can be rude too.

Preassumptions is a specialty for humans. Think of it, women being weaker(other than physically), racism, inter religion unrest, all the works of none other, than your's truly - Ourselves. Refering to one of our msn chats, you'd know that I too have this problem. Fact is, most of us do. However, I don't think that its related to being sensitive...

As for being annoyed for no reason... I'm a blank sheet of paper. When you find out.. do share the news.

Well, since you have found your 'weaknesses' its up to you to change or not. If you think you'd be happier the way you arethen don't change. Both decisions, change or remain, hold their own respective risks... you'll just have to choose which one you want to take... A pearl would never be formed if an oyster was not irritated by sand, so don't be afraid of taking risk for doing what you think is better.

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